And this is where it gets personal

I tend to keep this blog somewhat academic and impersonal, but I’d like to take a moment and tell my readers (all 4 of you!) about some of the exciting things that have been happening lately, and part of why I haven’t been writing much lately.

First things first, I am no longer a stay at home mom. That’s right, I got a job! It’s a low paying part time job as a Pharmacy Tech at a National Pharmacy Chain. I’m going to start up school again in the fall, and hopefully within a few years, I’ll be applying to PharmD programs so I can become a real paid Pharma Shill! And yes, I will make you all call me Dr. Pharma Shill.

I’ve also been involved in getting putting together the next Ignite New Mexico, which all of my local readers should really try to attend. I’ll be giving a talk this time around called “Honing your BS Detector.” The event is this Monday, and it’s 21+ this time, so I’ll actually be able to say “Bullshit.”

On the home front, things are good. Tiny Human is adjusting very well to daycare. The Tiny Humanists have taken a break for the summer, but we’ll be back in action with Atheist Sunday School next month, so expect more updates on that. I have a few blog topics I’ve been kicking around, and I plan to get to those in the next couple weeks before school starts. So there will be updates soon.

The post Scott Adams should have written

So, let’s talk about Scott Adams. Actually, let’s not talk too much about him, but just mention the kerfuffle surrounding his recent blog post about Men’s Rights activism. You can read his follow up, as well as the original post, over at his blog. I’m not going to talk about  how offensive it was or wasn’t, as that’s been thoroughly covered by just about everyone already, but I will  say that it was uninformative, it contributed nothing to any conversation about feminism or men’s rights, and Adams is simply being intellectually lazy in an attempt to start some shit (which apparently worked). Of course, according to Adams, the point of his blog isn’t to be informative or contribute anything to any conversation about anything. Further, this is a topic about which people sometimes get emotional, and emotional people can’t be reasoned with, therefore any criticism of Adams or his opinions is invalid. So, what follows is the post Scott Adams would have written if he were slightly less intellectually lazy and maybe even a little bit self-aware.

What Adams failed to mention in his little screed about MRAs was the fact that Men’s Rights activists frequently agree with feminists. Yes, I just said that. Many “men’s rights issues” are issues on which feminists agree. Now, Men’s Rights activists (or MRAs) are kind of odd. It’s pretty obvious that most of the “Men’s Rights issues” are simply attempts at maintaining privilege, which is why they hate anti-discrimination laws so much. They’re basically giant misogynists who are fighting against some sort of straw-feminist who is trying to take away their rights. What they fail to realize is what many feminists say over and over: The systems in place that are bad for women are bad for men too. Everyone loses, so the system needs to change. The response from MRAs is to childishly ignore what the feminists are saying, and pretend that feminists are just a bunch of man-haters who never agree with them about anything, ever.

My first example of this phenomenon comes from Skepchick Rebecca Watson. See, Rebecca Watson makes awesome YouTube videos, including this one on female genital mutilation, which I think most of us agree is a pretty horrific practice that should be ended. In the video, she calls male circumcision “pointless at best, and at worst, quite harmful.” But the point of the video was to examine a claim that male circumcision kills as many people as female genital mutilation (Spoiler Alert: No, it doesn’t). In the comments under her video, a surprising number of men came out to write insulting and misogynistic comments, which I’m not going to repeat here (my mom reads this!), but which you can read in the linked blog post and video. These comments are presumably intended to inform Ms. Watson that male circumcision is bad and that mutilating the genitals of any child is wrong. This is a point that isn’t disputed in the video. In fact, she states her opinion that male circumcision is a Bad Thing in very clear language. But the MRAs in the audience don’t seem capable of actually acknowledging the fact that they are on the same side!

My next example comes to us courtesy of the feminism subReddit, although it’s a pretty common trope that I see repeated a lot (kind of like creationists asking why there are still monkeys). A few weeks ago, some kind fellow decided to inform the feminists of Reddit that women don’t deserve equality until they are required to register for the draft. As I said this is a common trope, and it has several reasonable answers, which you can see if you read the thread. As one commenter pointed out, the Equal Rights Amendment would have required women to register for the draft, and feminists fought hard to get that amendment passed. But the OP and other MRAs who showed up ignored the fact that some of the feminists are in agreement with them (at least as far as draft equality), and chose to speculate that women who were drafted would just get knocked up to get out of it anyway (and you know, putting women in a situation where they have to choose between having a baby they may not want and going to war would be totally fair). One even made the disingenuous move of citing notorious anti-feminist Phyllis Schlafly as the example of a woman who opposed the ERA.

Of course, there are plenty of “Men’s Rights issues” that are completely ridiculous. But really, if the issues of circumcision, equality in the draft, and (as Adams notes) the gender inequality of the justice system are so important to MRAs, it would certainly behoove these men to realize that feminists could be their allies. They care about gender equality and creating a society that is better for women and men. Unfortunately, the MRAs are just unable to look past their own misogyny and acknowledge that feminists are not their enemies.

Should circumcision be banned?

A proposed ballot initiative in San Francisco seeks to ban circumcision in children under 18 years of age. According to Lloyd Schofield, the author of the initiative:

“Tattooing a child is banned as a felony and circumcision is more harmful than a tattoo,” said Schofield, who believes religious traditions should change.

“People can practice whatever religion they want, but your religious practice ends with someone else’s body,” said Schofield. “It’s a man’s body and…his body doesn’t belong to his culture, his government, his religion or even his parents. It’s his decision.”

Schofield still needs over 7,000 signatures to get this initiative on the ballot, so it’s not clear yet whether this issue will even come to a vote. Still, I think he raises some relevant points.

In theory, I agree with Schofield. I chose not to circumcise my Tiny Human because it’s an irreversible elective surgery. If he decides later in life that he wants to be circumcised, I’ll support that decision, but it must be his decision, not mine.

However, in practice I find his ballot initiative problematic for a number of reasons. First, it proposes making circumcision of anyone under 18 illegal. I think that’s going too far. My suggestion would be to ban circumcision in children under age 12 (or maybe even 10 or 11). I think by this age, a boy is competent to make the decision, provided he has access to good, unbiased information.

As I said, I chose not to circumcise my son, not because I am completely anti-circumcision, but because I want him to decide for himself if it’s right for him. There is evidence that circumcision can prevent the transmission of STDs (as well as urinary tract infections and penile cancer). As a parent, I am sure that my son will have questions about sex when he’s around 10 or so, and that education about his sexual health will begin around that age. Part of that education will include talking to him about the possible risks and benefits of circumcision. If he does decide that circumcision is a good idea, I want him to be able to make that choice before he decides to become sexually active.

Then, there’s this bit of information:

[A]ccording to the New York Times, a CDC researcher reported a sharp drop in the number of American parents choosing circumcision in hospitals – from 56 percent in 2006 to less than 33 percent last year.

That is a huge drop. Now, it’s too soon to know whether that’s a trend or a statistical fluke, but if it’s a trend, it’s very significant. It shows that attitudes toward circumcision are changing. Parents are no longer viewing it as the default, and are making the active decision not to circumcise. And, if circumcision is already becoming less common, then it isn’t really necessary to pass legislation to discourage circumcision.

I don’t think that banning circumcision is the answer. I think the best thing we can do is encourage hospitals to adopt policies that don’t treat circumcision as the default. Circumcisions should not be routinely performed on infants, and (both) parents should have to specifically request circumcision.

We should also encourage parents to stop treating circumcision as the norm. The AAP does not recommend routine neonatal circumcision, and we should pay attention to that recommendation. The most common reasons I hear for circumcision is that uncircumcised penises are “weird” or “ugly,” or that boys should be circumcised because their fathers were circumcised. These basically boil down to “This is just what we have done for generations, and we should  continue to do that because that’s what we’ve always done.” It’s an argument from tradition, and it is far from a good reason to perform elective surgery on infants who are given no say in the matter.

So let’s continue this trend. Let’s critically examine our reasons for circumcising our boys. Is it really to their benefit? Or are we just doing it because of tradition or aesthetics? It’s time we stop treating it as the default, and start letting our sons make up their own minds about what happens to their genitals.